Who Talks to You, Like You Talk to Yourself?

I was talking to one of my latests recruits this morning and he is a 40 something year old man with years of "selling" under his belt, he seems to be dilligent, with a good work ethic, wants to learn new skills and trusts me to help his progress. I know this because some of the things I have asked him to do like a vision board, the specific goal settling, visualisation and finally putting his much desired Bently convertable picture as his screen saver have seemed alien to him, but he has done them anyway, gradually he has seen the benefit of building the new reality with pictures, emotions and feelings.

However, it was not until we spent some time going through some of the internet marketing materials did I find the weak link in his chain!!! Being honest we are only as good as our weakest link, the one part of the jigsaw that lets us down or is missing, keeps all the other pieces waiting for completion.

Building a sales funnel and looking for leads is a natural ability for this man, but the more time he spend doing that caused him to have minute lapses of concentration or he made silly errors, pushing wrong buttons on the task he was doing. To which he became very self devaluing, "why are you so stupid", "what the hell are you doing that for", "what an idiot, you know better than that". Which made me think, how many people can see a pattern in this?

When we are contolling our thoughts, planting ideas and visualising with time and effort it becomes easier to take the reign of your thoughts and beliefs to get them to where you want them to be, but on the times that our guards are down old habits creep in. This really is a door that needs shutting and bolting closed, as is is like slipping back into an old pair or shoes or a favourite chair rather than breaking the new ones in, as they get tight and uncomfortable after a while........ do we choose to move forward with the smart new option, or when the pain increases do we go back to what we know is comfortable.

Lets face it, if anybody else spoke to us like we speak to ourselves at times, how long would they be our friend??????? We need to be our best friend, not just in company and at formal times, when we are in those pressured, or quiet alone times as well.

One exercise I learnt very early from Lou Tice from The Pacific Institute on was to have a 24hr period when there was no "put downs". "insults" or "self defeating" thoughts allowed, it is not an eassy task, but a very worthwhile one because it does catch you out!!! and then you can realign the thoughts to a more positive, encouraging option, which in turn will help your progress to the new image of you, in your new environment.

See how you can do for the next 24hrs